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NadekocchiNadekocchi2 kuukautta sitten
This past two months i have in total sendt interest messages on 6 ads only to recieve no reply what so ever on any of them. I did notice that one of them never found it's way to my outcasts so i can forgive that one as an unfortunate bug of some sort. But why do people not reply to me when i say i want to buy something? Its really stressful not nowing wheter i have the money i offered for the figure or not and the wait is preventing me from buying other figures which has lead me to miss out on some. It could ofcourse be an inbox bug but qhen its every add i have applied to these two months something tells me it's not. And what do you know some 2 weeks or so after i decleared my interest the listing is marked as unavailable or im just ailently left to wait forever. Atleast they marked it ad unavailable. But still. I guess i can understand them not replying if i offered lesd than the amount they wanted which i did in 1/6 cases but the other 4 have no excuse (-1 from the sending bug) Would it kill you to reply to every person with interest? How many buyers do you get on popular figures?

Edit: is this karen behavior? Am i being a karen?
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Dark_Mephisto2 kuukautta sitten#103822511View spoilerHide spoilerI always reply if someone asks me about a sale, even if I no longer have the item I was selling, if it's only to let the other party know I no longer have the item. The same goes for a too-low offer, I politely decline.
I have had a countless times unfortunately that people had messaged me with interest in buying a figure from me and after much back and forth they stopped messaging and completely ghosted me or in some instances they even no longer reply after the initial message where they ask about the item. It's annoying and a huge waste of time if I do all the preparations and the item is ready for shipment and the buyer is gone without a trace.
I'd be rather people be honest and tell me they no longer have an interest or something came up financially or whatever the reason, just communicate. Saves us both a lot of time and frustration.
I am not into selling figures for a profit or as a hobby, I do it as a necessity, be it to make room for other collections and also a budget for that as well as paying some bills. So after spending a week or sometime longer with back and forth and people agreeing and the transaction is almost done, it gets my hopes up (guess that one is on me) for nothing. This of course is not talking about people that cancel the order due to personal reasons or whatnot but those who just ghost you and are never heard from again.
With that said I have also had plenty of buyers that were serious and the transaction went smoothly with them being happy with the items, so it's not all bad. It just at least from my experience, it seems like lately, it has gotten worse with people messaging and then ghosting. Reading this topic proves I am not the only one that gets these kinds of people.
i totally get that. I only took the buyers side into account because i haven't sold anything yet but im sure youre right that it happens both ways. I think the people who ignore buyers and sellers might often be the same. With corona too people have forgotten how to socialise qnd dumb things happen
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I always reply if someone asks me about a sale, even if I no longer have the item I was selling, if it's only to let the other party know I no longer have the item. The same goes for a too-low offer, I politely decline.

I have had a countless times unfortunately that people had messaged me with interest in buying a figure from me and after much back and forth they stopped messaging and completely ghosted me or in some instances they even no longer reply after the initial message where they ask about the item. It's annoying and a huge waste of time if I do all the preparations and the item is ready for shipment and the buyer is gone without a trace.

I'd be rather people be honest and tell me they no longer have an interest or something came up financially or whatever the reason, just communicate. Saves us both a lot of time and frustration.

I am not into selling figures for a profit or as a hobby, I do it as a necessity, be it to make room for other collections and also a budget for that as well as paying some bills. So after spending a week or sometime longer with back and forth and people agreeing and the transaction is almost done, it gets my hopes up (guess that one is on me) for nothing. This of course is not talking about people that cancel the order due to personal reasons or whatnot but those who just ghost you and are never heard from again.

With that said I have also had plenty of buyers that were serious and the transaction went smoothly with them being happy with the items, so it's not all bad. It just at least from my experience, it seems like lately, it has gotten worse with people messaging and then ghosting. Reading this topic proves I am not the only one that gets these kinds of people.
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Guy93942 kuukautta sitten#103680511it happens in both sides, I got people asking about my Ads, after finding boxes and estimated shipping, they just disappeared. very odd, this happens 40% of the time.
Yeah, that happened to me, too. Good to know, I'm not the only one.
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Definitely goes both ways. One potential is is that the figure has already been sold or is on reserve, but in that situation they should message you and let you know what number you are in the order of people who have messaged. When selling figures, I've had multiple people come to me for them -- and once I even ended up selling it to the second person when the first one ghosted me. And yuuup, the ghosting by buyers happens all the time. I'm even being semi-ghosted right now on ebay with someone who made an offer, I accepted, and now they aren't sending payment. Had to tell them that if they don't pay by the time that ebay suggests, I'll have to cancel their order.

I will say though, I don't collect anymore. I have a bunch of ads up and I check every few days to see if anyone has messaged me about my ads ... but I don't really hang out here anymore and people don't message me or talk to me, so it's easy to forget to log in and check. And I don't get email notifications anymore either.
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Julia125 Kyojuro Rengoku's Wife
I've had a lot of people ghost me when I show interest in a figure they're selling, happens quite a lot actually :p Sometimes they don't even respond in the first place which is more common. As other people have said, it definitely helps to see when the person was last online/when the ad was posted. If the user is inactive then it's a lot more likely they'll not interact with you. Obviously I don't know the reasons for it but it happens to more people than you think, unfortunately.


My own story regarding this:
View spoilerHide spoilerI was really upset with this one interaction I had going with this user who was selling two figures I really wanted and we were messaging back and forth to the point of where she sent me an invoice for them. I hopped on MFC the next day before seeing the invoice and she told me not to pay it since her Paypal was messed up or something. I told her to let me know when to pay and then she just ghosted me.

She was online quite frequently after that too and was just ignoring me. I sent multiple messages over the course of like a month and even saw other figures on her ads get sold so I knew she was still selling stuff after that. She just decided to blatantly ignore me? I was really upset because they were both 2 figures I desperately wanted and one of them had crazy aftermarket prices, she was selling it for $200 which was low on the aftermarket side.

Eventually she just marked that one as unavailable and the idk what happened to the other one but I just gave up at that point. Was definitely very upsetting but I'm happy I didn't pay the invoice in case she had just decided to ghost me after I paid for them -_-
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it happens in both sides, I got people asking about my Ads, after finding boxes and estimated shipping, they just disappeared. very odd, this happens 40% of the time.
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Kuromii デュエーデュ
Nadekocchi2 kuukautta sitten#103670242Im guilty of all of those.
1. Shipping costs are sometimes stated by continent so sometimes the shipping could be different by country there fore i always make sure to ask about country specifically. Eu doesn't include all europe for example
2. This could happen by mistake sometimes the buyer might have not seen it and you're leaving them hanging.some people have dyslexia
3.waving shipping costs is an easy way to haggle you could just say no ya know.
4. I've done that on figures with insane aftermarket prices with the intention of letting the seller know im interested and hopibg theyll tell me about other offers or sell it to me if they are in a rush.
5.not guilty would never but i get why people would want that.
This is honestly kinda what im talking about is a simple no that expensive?
Edit:also a lot of times some of these i use as a conversation starter as a buyer i kinda expect the seller to try to sell me their product maybe reply with pictures give me some hints you know? Not all sales happen in 2 texts. Also mfc has people from all over the world and their relationship with for example haggling is different to everyone. If you refuse someone who tried to haggle because thats the norm for them (shipping is like 30€ if a figure is 200€ that's a miniscule amount. ) you're turning down a potential buyer. although i get why its tempting if you get alot of offers it still sucks for the buyer

1. Fair enough. I guess it would depend on the way the question is phrased, like if someone is just making sure. I was thinking along the lines of when a US buyer messages me, in the UK, asking how much the shipping to them is. My ad says worldwide (outside the UK and EU) is £15. You live anywhere other than the UK and EU? The charge is £15. As stated. Please bear in mind I'm responding to sellers who literally say nothing other than "how much to Florida <insert postcode>", rather than genuinely wanting to make sure their country falls within a set bracket, like your example.

2. Dyslexia does not prevent someone from seeing "SOLD" in capitals, at the top of the ad, alone with no other words around it.

3. Waiving the huge cost of tracked shipping across the globe - as the opening message - is not haggling, it's bloody rude. I already frequently take a hit on shipping costs (which is my choice), no I will not shell out even more for you.

4. Again, fair enough for your example. I was responding with my own example in mind: my pricing being in line with lower than the going prices, and still getting ridiculously low offers. I always price my listings at the same or less than the Japanese aftermarket. I don't mind a little haggling or even multiple purchase deals, but a full 50% reduction of an already fair price is, again, bloody rude.

When you get 10+ messages about the same figure during the hours you're asleep, no, you don't always have the patience to answer the rude and the stupid. Luckily they're few and far between; I'd say probably 85% of messages from buyers have been totally fine and replied to. Occasionally I forget/miss something due to volume, as already stated. It happens.
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broken-Toybox2 kuukautta sitten#103670264Better to check that line in the actual add tho, the profile won't tell you the actual time someone was last online if the user opted to hide their online status.

Yes. That's where I usually check it. I've noticed that the ones in the profile can be... 'less than helpful' sometimes. ^_^
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broken-Toybox lump of laziness
RayeKinezono2 kuukautta sitten#103665393I've had this happen a few times, but it is also what has clued me in to paying attention to the "Last online" line. If it's hours, or a day, then I'll shoot them a DM, if it says "Last online 'x' months ago," then I don't even bother sending a message and then move on. Ever since I started paying attention to that, the number of ghostings has gone down a lot.Better to check that line in the actual add tho, the profile won't tell you the actual time someone was last online if the user opted to hide their online status.
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Kuromii2 kuukautta sitten#103668759It isn't Karen behavior at all!
As a seller, if I get lots of messages within a short amount of time I can really struggle to reply to them all and some may be missed. However, I also don't reply to blatantly stupid messages, because if the buyer's reading comprehension is that bad, I don't feel safe dealing with them.
Examples include:
- Asking how much shipping is when shipping costs are already stated in my ad
- Asking to buy a figure that is already very clearly marked as sold
- Asking me to waive shipping costs (seriously?)
- "Can you do me a 50% discount" (fuck off)
- "Can you send untracked" (no, my ads state tracked only due to risk of being scammed by buyer)



Im guilty of all of those.
1. Shipping costs are sometimes stated by continent so sometimes the shipping could be different by country there fore i always make sure to ask about country specifically. Eu doesn't include all europe for example
2. This could happen by mistake sometimes the buyer might have not seen it and you're leaving them hanging.some people have dyslexia
3.waving shipping costs is an easy way to haggle you could just say no ya know.
4. I've done that on figures with insane aftermarket prices with the intention of letting the seller know im interested and hopibg theyll tell me about other offers or sell it to me if they are in a rush.
5.not guilty would never but i get why people would want that.

This is honestly kinda what im talking about is a simple no that expensive?

Edit:also a lot of times some of these i use as a conversation starter as a buyer i kinda expect the seller to try to sell me their product maybe reply with pictures give me some hints you know? Not all sales happen in 2 texts. Also mfc has people from all over the world and their relationship with for example haggling is different to everyone. If you refuse someone who tried to haggle because thats the norm for them (shipping is like 30€ if a figure is 200€ that's a miniscule amount. ) you're turning down a potential buyer. although i get why its tempting if you get alot of offers it still sucks for the buyer
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